3 Reasons You Should Try Online Dating

Geplaatst op 28-04-2026

Categorie: Mens en gezondheid

We can all be accused of being hypocrites at some point in our lives, especially me. I flip flop back and forth on issues constantly, why? Well experiences drive perception. If we were to all listen to and base our opinions on another persons life experiences or one life experience we’d be done for. That’s kind of how cults work, there is limitations on your belief, it’s pre-packaged and served hot for easy consumption.

The one stance I’ve completely reversed my thinking about is the way I feel about online dating. I met my first boyfriend in person and assumed that was the way it was always done. You meet in person, exchange numbers, make eye contact, smile, talk on the phone until wee hours of the night about nothing and so forth. When I left that relationship 7 years later I was left in an awkward position. While the rest of the world had finessed, spit shined and polished their dating profiles on Black Planet and Myspace, the world became that much smaller.

I got inducted into online dating by a former girlfriend. She created a profile for me, lied about my city of origin and would operate as my “social media manager”. I wanted nothing to do with online dating at all. Daily she would email me pictures of men for my approval. Her thinking was that I had no concept of the amount of pickings out there and her goal was to get me some bait.

I gladly went along with her plans, never taking anything too seriously but then I became addicted. It was easier for me to talk to someone online and finesse my reality than it was to interact, something I did easily before, with the opposite sex….sound familiar? I loved the way technology was progressing, I could meet people in other cities not just men who lived on my block. By this time, the rest of my peers were already leading “normal” love lives and met their significant others in person, while traveling or at social events. After a few screwy experiences I began to grow tired of online dating, in fact I started to point fingers at those who were STILL on it.

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See I went online as a kid in a candy shop, not really focused on what I wanted or needed. There is also the fact that most singles on dating sites are usually not looking for love, if you know what I mean (wink wink). I was also made to feel like an outsider  amongst my peers because I had yet to settle down. I’ve touched on this before but the world begins to side eye you once you slide over the mid-twenties hump without a steady partner.

Where does that leave us? You may have tried the online dating thing or given the local cutie who takes the same train as you a chance with no luck. You may be getting out of a bad experience now and just want to lay low for awhile. Or you may be knee deep in tasks at work and just not in the head space to date, does that mean you should be lonely forever?

There are so many scenarios and reasons not to date but I will tell you why dating is important.

Dating helps prevent casual hookups that end up becoming situationships (if that is something you don’t want). Dating keeps your social love circle full and active so that instead of easily settling  the focus is on learning, growing and having fun. Dating increases your chances of attracting a partner who is compatible to your personality and shares the same passions you do because you’re constantly experiencing activities that you both need to agree on.

Power Dating is my term for serial dating. That is the act of packing your schedule with dates. Now they don’t have to be elaborate five star restaurant dates, but they have to be FUN. The benefit of power dating is that you are rarely bored and you become exposed to different personalties, activities and let’s be real…different looks. It forces you to break out of the “my type is” mode and go off of good vibes and shared interests & values.

Speed dating events are cool, singles mixers are awesome too but there is credibility in online dating as well. Not everyone who is online is down with that catfish life or only wanting casual sex partners. The key is to use the online dating site as a catalogue and make sure most of your interaction takes place in person. Also try to keep your dates local, being forced into a long distance relationship because of lifestyle change is one thing, seeking one is another.

Here are 3 reasons you should give online dating a try:

1. Your perfect match may just be as career focused as you and doesn’t exactly have time to attend singles events. They may even find attending singles events awkward.
2. You can fill up your power dating schedule a lot faster with a “catalogue” to choose from.
3. You’re not alienating yourself from human connection.

#3 is a big one for me. I see so many singles put up a wall or develop pride about dating. I’m pretty sure 100% of us desire companionship in some form. Hiding from or avoiding dating makes it easier for us to become disconnected from others and a big part of intimacy and attracting a loving relationship is having human connection, being able to empathize and relate. Also the further away we get from dating the easier it is for someone to sweep us off our feet and take advantage of us. Dating actually helps us develop and maintain boundaries, I mean you will be getting a lot of practice.

I’m not sure why I wrote this, but I just remember being the most content when I was dating with no pressure and no expectations for commitment. Those were the most freeing experiences for me. I felt as though I was more free to be myself and to have fun just like I would when I was with friends or family.